Do you want to get back with your ex? Maybe you realize you made a mistake or perhaps a long series of misunderstandings built up and now you are on your own.
The first thing you need to do is work out if you genuinely want to get back with your ex, or if you are just missing the routine that came with being part of a couple. It could be that you may think you’re in love, but you’re really just in love with the idea of being in a relationship, or enjoy the routine you had while being a couple.
So, let’s presume you really do want to get your ex back, which brings up the next step. You need to do your best to figure out if your ex still likes you. Be careful here. You have to be able to separate what your wishes are from reality. Anyway, if you find there is a chance she still likes you, then that’s a good sign. Of course, this may depend on why you split up – if she caught you fooling around with her best friend you may have a battle on your hands to win her back!
But, if you think you have a chance it might be worth going after. However, it’s at this point that a lot of guys blow it. They start overdoing it by trying to get in touch with their ex. They call, send emails and text messages, and bump into their ex girlfriends “accidentally”. This is not only rude, but it will only serve to push your ex even further away.
The better way to handle it is to do nothing. Well, do nothing in regards to trying to contact your ex. Go out with your friends, have a good time, and life your life. The more fun you have, the better. just to be clear, you are not doing this to spite your ex. She will eventually find out that you’re carrying on just fine, and this will show her that you have accepted things the way they are, and are a well-adjusted person. Granted, you may feel like a wreck, but nobody else has to know that!
The other key to how to get an ex back is to look back at what led to your break up. You need to dig deep and get to the root causes. Doing this will help prevent you from making the same mistakes in the future. It will also demonstrate that you cared enough about making things right, and that is one of the best ways to make sure the two of you will get back together. Remember that the best things in life take work, but they are also the exact same things that are truly worth fighting for.
You need to have learned from your mistakes (and not just pretend that you have) as well as remembering why your ex fell in love with you in the first place. Don’t beg or grovel, it’s not a good look. Instead, just get back to being you – confident, self-assured, but not cocky, and worth dating again!
But, be warned, it may take some time – and there’s no guarantee that it will work… it all depends on how your ex feels – and we can’t guarantee that!
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