Loyalty is a trait that most of us admire and seek out in others – especially our partners. There is nothing wrong with being loyal but, if taken to extremes, your loyalty can actually become a problem. We don’t mean how loyalty can become a problem for a character in a mafia film, but rather how your own sense of loyalty may make you do things for others without thinking of your own thoughts and feelings.
Loyalty can make you feel obliged to do something, or make you act out of guilt. Other times loyalty can become a need to do things so others like and value you. This over-loyal attitude can seep into your personal and professional life, and has been shown to be a particular problem for women.
To stop becoming a slave to your loyalty, you should take time to think about yourself and who you are. Think about the things that you value, what areas of your life you want to focus on, and what you need to do to move towards your goals. It is all about knowing yourself so that you can always remain loyal to your own self, even as you help others.
You may want to take a week to note down all the things that you do out of a feeling of obligation, while also listing the things you would rather be doing to advance yourself or your dreams in some way. Then, once you have your list, see how you can start to swap the obligations for the more inspiring and fulfilling activities.
Taking control of your life doesn’t mean that you have to forget your duties or start acting selfishly, but by being loyal to yourself you make sure that you are on the right path for you too.
This is your life, and you will only really be happy if you live it in a way that is in line with your dreams and desires. You are wonderful and unique, and you should show that to the world. Being the best you can be and living your life with self-loyalty will help you create the life you want and deserve.
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